Love is in the Air
With the holiday season comes wedding and engagement season. When you first get engaged there is nothing but excitement. You can’t wait to tell everyone you know and start the planning because that is the fun part, right? But as soon as you find out all the small details you are now in charge of, you start getting overwhelmed. Everyone knows that planning a wedding can be a very stressful time; but there are some easy ways to control your stress levels.
· Talk with your partner. Calm the wedding jitters by taking some time to speak to your partner in the beginning stages about your future marital life. What do you expect from each other as spouses? Will you be joining bank accounts? Will you be having children? What boundaries will you set with friends and family in your first year of marriage? If you go into planning knowing you and your partner are on the same page, it is more likely that you will rely on them to help you de-stress.
· Know yourself and how you operate. If you are the type of person who must do everything yourself, make sure you pick a date that will allow you the time you need to complete everything. Do-it-yourself weddings are cheaper but will take up more time.
· Your timeline is the most important thing to follow. Make sure that you create a realistic timeline and build in time to take breaks from planning as it is a full-time job. Get as much as you can done early on when you are still in the excitement phase. This will reduce the risk of becoming a “bridezilla” in the last month or two before the big day. The last two months you should be relaxing as much as possible as you will most likely be fielding calls from future guests.
· Be flexible throughout the process. Know that everyone will want to ask questions and know all the details. Decide beforehand who needs to know what. Don’t be afraid to say ‘No’ to others’ ideas; they don’t know your budget or overall vision. Your budget will most likely control the decisions you have to make, so stick to it to reduce stress.
· Rely on your partner. They will know when your stress levels are too high. Ask them to let you know when it is time to take a break and do something fun together. This will remind you why you are doing all of this in the first place, and will refresh your excitement.